What is healing to me?

Healing to me is this:  being able to break free and make peace with your past trauma, forgive those who hurt you and accept the things you cannot change, all while gaining the wisdom to move forward into your new life, as a whole person and be the best version of who you were created to be, in this lifetime.  

There is a season for everything in life, including healing.  Today, I can clearly see people healing all around me.  This gives me so much hope for the next generation.  It is definitely healing season, so, if you have been working on your own healing, to speak your truth, or set free from what has been holding you back, this is your moment!  The first thing I hear people say, when others start speaking their truth, especially if it has been many years after they decide to go public, is, "why did they wait so long?" or "why bother to come out now, after all these years?"  Although I understand your thought process, let me bring some insight and clarity, from my own perspective as to why there isn't an expiration date of coming out, or a "birth date of speaking your truth.  It happens when it is time, and it takes so much work to arrive at the time of disclosure.  A lot of work!!!!!  You see, healing starts on the inside before it shows up on the outside, and this can take years.  You have to get to the point of choosing to be healed versus looking healed, the latter is definitely easier but more damaging.  

As someone who has spent the first half of my life healing, with the hopes that my latter days will be greater than my former days, I am passionate and committed to helping other women heal from past trauma, because I know what it feels like to suffer from pain, shame, guilt and the mental, physical and emotional cripple that is brought as a result of trauma.   More importantly, I have done the work to heal and take back my power. You can too!

Abuse destroys families.

It destroys lives!  Even for the abuser.

Let's break the cycle and heal together.

Thought starters:  Why is it when a survivor of sexual abuse comes forward, the first question people ask is "why did you wait so long to come forward?" 

Have you or someone you know been a victim of sexual abuse? Did you speak up right away or did it take you a long time to tell someone?